a late night caller

She had married for the first time in her forties to a man she loved. He died when she was in her fifties. She had lived in the same town, a small, quiet New England town, all her life. The job she’d had for so long no longer satisfied her.

Late one night when heavy rains pounded at her house she found herself in a deep state of unhappiness. She’d been sitting with her unhappiness for some time unable to shake it or to even think of her next step when suddenly a name popped into her mind. She’d gotten the name from someone awhile ago, but never followed up on a call. The name belonged to a highly-recommended counselor. As if in a trance she looked for the number and found herself making a phone call. Had she been in her usual state, and had put more thought into making the call, it never would have happened since it was past midnight. Luckily she wasn’t in her usual state. Althought it was late the woman answered her phone and agreed to see the caller. It would be another hour or so for the caller to get to the counselor’s house since she lived in another city. It was all right the counselor had said. “Come.”

They met on that stormy night and the caller’s life was forever changed. This is all she told me when I first met her in New Mexico. I’ve no idea what was said in the wee hours of that stormy morning. I think she has no desire to relive that part of her life, but whatever it was it was like a healing pill for the unhappy caller. From the east coast to the west coast the caller traveled. An interesting step since she’d never traveled any where except in her own home state before this time. At the time I was fortunate enough to meet the caller she had gotten her college and master’s degrees and went from pastoral training right into the ministry. Of course, it wasn’t an easy road. Did she mind? It doesn’t seem that way. And I don’t think she knows what the word unhappy means anymore.

I marvel at what was set in motion because a compassionate counselor answered a phone call late one night and said, “come.”

our world

Sometimes I’m at a loss, for brief moments, as to what and how to think about our world. I understand that it’s a spectacular world. However, so much is happening all over at any given time, and much is said and written about it, that it’s nice to simply draw a blank some of the time, and think about absolutely nothing. Or simplify and think only of the things that are pleasing for as long as we need in order to relax enough to enjoy and appreciate the world we live in. For although there are lots of heavy-duty things going on; there are also wonderful happenings that could make our hearts sing. And unless we stop and see the good and appreciate it, most likely we’ll miss it. And that would be unfortunate.

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.” -Rochefoucauld, French philosopher

“Don’t hurry, don’t worry. You’re only here for a short visit.” – anonymous

about what we do

I’ve noticed that during interviews many artists say that what they’re doing is fun. And if it wasn’t fun they wouldn’t be doing it. They have passion and absolutely love their work (they probably don’t even call it work – more like play). It’s a great way to live. It seems that way should be everyone’s birthright. And if we don’t have this passion and love for what we do in life, it’s our responsibility to somehow rethink how to make it happen because it’s often been said that more heart attacks occur on a Monday morning than any other day of the week? An interesting fact.

trusting our world

“Don’t play for safety – it’s the most dangerous game in the world. ”
-Hugh Walpole

For many reasons I love this quote. I have it written in a notebook and whenever I read it an incredible feeling comes over me. Because I really do believe this world belongs to everyone and we have to trust it and welcome it into our lives, confident that we’re more than capable of living life lovingly, wisely, grandly, happily, peacefully. It’s a delightful quote; it reminds us to be free, to abandon stress, and to imagine the things we’ve yet to do.

One evening I caught the tail end of a lecture given by Christiane Northrup, www.drnorthrup.com on PBS. Listening to her was fun; she had a radiant smile, and although the topic seemed heavy (The Mother/Daughter Relationship), she played with this subject and everyone in the audience enjoyed listening. Then she ended the evening saying there’s no reason to be sick when we start getting old. “Happy, healthy, dead” is the way she phrased it. I can’t remember how it tied into the subject, but it did. Those words, happy, healthy, dead seemed magical to me. When I think about them I say them because I want to plant the seed for this at a future date. It just dawned on me as I’m writing that I should start adding the part about a future date, or it will seem that I’m ready to say goodbye to this life. We need to feel the world is a friendly place, even though it doesn’t always appear that way.

“Everytime we choose safety, we reinforce fear . . . our world grows smaller and smaller.”
-Cheri Huber