Some people are easily ruffled when anything happens that they don’t like. They’re “very sensitive” beings. They can rattle off a list of things people have done to them, or now do to them, and, at the same time, are completely oblivious of the part they play in the events of their life. They interpret perceived slights as monstrous acts against them, and, along with that, have a fierce determination to not make peace with their past which can result in an unforgiving heart. Most recently we’ve seen this in so-called celebrities.
Refusal to leave behind that kind of heavy baggage, along with the added burden of lugging around a big ego, can bring awful consequences. Have you noticed that big egos, or those who see themselves as frail or powerless, are easily flustered and quick to anger? They tend to blame others instead of themselves for just about everything they don’t like about their life? To them it’s always the other guy who has wronged them because big egos don’t see beyond their own selves. And when they’re angry they lash out 100 times more furiously than whatever perceived action set them off in the first place. And after their burst of anger has subsided they tend to behave as though nothing has happened. It’s all so very interesting, and it’s all so very sad because it could be all so very different when we just let go of the heavy baggage.
Life experiences are a powerful way of learning, and many of us have had lots of them. However, there’s a time when we need to wake up and get to a clearer understanding of the way we’re behaving toward Life. We need to realize that we’ve been sabatoging what could be a life filled with joy, love, success, strength, great adventures, beauty, and harmony. We need to remember that other people don’t make or break us; we make or break our own selves.
Choosing to drop the heavy stuff and taking total responsibility for what happens in our own life is a enormous step in itself. After that comes the desire and belief that there’s a more powerful, stronger and better way to live. There are people who can guide us, and books that can show us, and they’ll come a time when something within us will teach us. But sometimes when we begin this change there’s a tendency to look back, and, more or less, go back, because we think change is not forthcoming, or we don’t want to do what’s necessary to allow change to occur, so we become wishy-washy and nothing happens. How can it? We’ve confused the whole situation and until we decide once and for all that there’s no turning back-ever-until that time comes, we’ll stay in a state of being neither here nor there-still carrying all that baggage.
How do we know when we’ve really let go? There are lots of ways we know; life becomes sweeter, those little things we spent so much time and effort defending, we no longer care about. Instead of causing problems, we want to find a way to solve them. The bigger picture is clearer. We’re open and ready to understand Life on a grand scale. And we gladly welcome the adventure, it’s something we desire so much that the time and effort to arrive at this state is no longer seen as a chore, but something more precious than we could have ever imagined.
Oh, yes, It’s our choice. Imagine that!